diligentwolf:

hahahaha! well legally, i can't do that sort of thing...

ha ha.. aw. How old are you? I suddenly feel VERY old.

Eek.

Ok, well getting drunk is one way! Not sure how you'd manage if you cant get drunk! I suppose all you can ever do is tell somebody how you feel.

It doesnt get any easier as you get older though.

i just turned 16, lol. can't drink til i'm 21. plus i have no desire to get drunk anyway, haha

so that new guy i talked about...turns out i dont like him. hes icky. lol. basically i had a bad feeling about him for some weird reason, and i told him it wouldnt work out...and it wasnt jut a little bad feeling, it was like this HUGE dread. and he was being annoying at my friends party.

but it also turns out that the FIRST guy probably likes me. its a REALLY long story that i dont feel like getting in to, lol, but we're gonna hang out (finally!) tomorrow :) lifes good. just for that reason. everything else goin on in my life right now kinda stinks but i dont even care haha.

so much drama and changes and bla bla bla. hopefully itll end soon. happily, of course.

Im single n have never had a boyfriend it kinda dpresses me.

diligentwolf:

we're gonna hang out (finally!)

aaaaaww!!! good luck, lady!!

@Lollzie... I'm in your club... !!

Hehe...I agree with you, L.

 Hahaha so true, L! Being single is really fun, you can talk/laugh/hang out with anybody, without p*ssing of your boyfriend

Krezzy:

 Hahaha so true, L! Being single is really fun, you can talk/laugh/hang out with anybody, without p*ssing of your boyfriend

hi everyone! I'm back ...haha it's been a while since I was on here

Lollzie:

Im single n have never had a boyfriend it kinda dpresses me.

I'm exactly the same...I suppose going to a private school my whole life hasn't helped that I suppose

but opportunities will appear. I used to think that boys would never even look at me, but I've actually found that, by not actually thinking about getting into a relationship, I've actually found it easier to chat to boys. I should add that I suffer from bad self confidence and paranoia about my appearance etc. and would before have never plucked up the courage to even look at a guy before....but now I'm at university, I'm a bit more confident and will still wait patiently till the right guy appears...so just hang in there, you'll find someone!

I would like to say also, that while I may be able to drink legally, I would never get drunk just to try and get a guy. Mind you, I'm opposed to getting drunk on principal anyway, but I don't want to have to rely on alcohol for courage to approach someone. To me, that's just wrong..but everyone's different.

anyway, that's all for now.....

Lollzie:

I would like to say also, that while I may be able to drink legally, I would never get drunk just to try and get a guy. Mind you, I'm opposed to getting drunk on principal anyway, but I don't want to have to rely on alcohol for courage to approach someone. To me, that's just wrong..but everyone's different.

Saying get drunk wasnt me meaning you get a guy that way, but if you are really shy, maybe a drink will enable you to say those things you wish to say. Its difficult sometimes to have courage, however if you have courage to speak to somebody you like then its fine. But there are people in the world who desperately care for somebody but are paraylsed by fear of rejection and so sometimes if there is an option to lower that fear of rejection i'm certainly not going to judge anybody for that, i'm not saying you are, just saying that if it helps somebody find somebody, i dont think you should get drunk and sleep with people thats not what i'm saying.

I also think that the Lovers Are Losing is a great title, because i think they are, i think there are plenty of people in the world who deserve to find love but arent finding it these days.. or maybe thats how i feel.

All i suppose i feel is as long as you find love, it shouldnt really matter how, because if it takes getting slightly merry to get the confidence you need, and that means you get the person you want is that so wrong? I'm not saying you should betray your own principals, but i cant see the harm. There is too much sadness in the world if you can find a way to be happy, then to me it doesnt matter.

Oh, and this is to all the girls in this thread, the simple thing is more guys will like you than you like them! Even if you feel unattractive, trust me, you arent, there are plenty of guys out there who will like you, its just being in that place and time to meet them, maybe you wont find them where you expect and maybe they wont be an exact ideal as per the romantic comedies we watch.. but they are there. Though i'd say try and find the guy who treats you well, rather than the guy who's cuter but treats you worse, in the long run it'll work out better.

you speak a lot of sense silentbob

and what I meant (which might not have come across well before, sorry I was tired! ) was that i won't get stone-dead drunk in order to approach a guy.

Sure, a drink or two probably won't do any harm at all, (that's usually how much I would have anyway) especially if someone really can't even go near someone they would like to talk to. I just meant that I wouldn't deliberately go "right, I'm gonna get really drunk so I can talk to that guy" and then have ten drinks or more or something. 

When I said 'drunk' before, I meant the totally out-of-it sort of drunk, not the slightly tipsy/more confident sort of drunk.

I apologise for my inability to explain myself properly....I've found it's getting worse recently!!

I just think that sometimes when people have too many drinks, they aren't totally in control of what they're saying/doing and then may find that they say/do something that ruins the opportunity of getting to know someone. But on the other hand, an occasion like that may prove useful as a conversation opener next time you met that person! I suppose it depends on the person and just how confident they are etc.

emskimo-moo:

When I said 'drunk' before, I meant the totally out-of-it sort of drunk, not the slightly tipsy/more confident sort of drunk.

I apologise for my inability to explain myself properly....I've found it's getting worse recently!!

Dont apologise, its no biggie. Its a board. Misunderstandings are bound to occur, as long as we can communicate on a level that is aware of them and allows for them its all good. Its only when people get too literal that things get silly!

I would agree that the total out of it, wouldnt be that good, and i'd only recommend in dire situations! When the person is that paralysed they literally cant say it after a couple of drinks.

Whilst i dont think there is anything wrong with being single, there are times you miss having somebody there, somebody who is yours, and you theirs, not in a posessive way, but in a way you share, you can have friends, but few friends share your life like a partner. Its not that I HAVE to have somebody to make my life complete, but its nice you know?

I'm fine being alone. I dont need to have the wrong person, and if the right person doesnt come along, then thats the way things go.. though i dont believe that, sometimes the waiting is key.

silentbob:

sometimes the waiting is key.

silentbob:

Though i'd say try and find the guy who treats you well, rather than the guy who's cuter but treats you worse, in the long run it'll work out better.

silentbob:

and this is to all the girls in this thread, the simple thing is more guys will like you than you like them! Even if you feel unattractive, trust me, you arent, there are plenty of guys out there who will like you, its just being in that place and time to meet them

oh you've said just a bunch of great words that truly touched me... you made me remember to my friend, who always tells me that sometime I'll find someone, and I know it's true... and I enjoy being single, as I know that someday I'll meet the right one... but it's just that sometimes I see my friends texting with their boyfriends/girlfriends or dating and I'd like to have someone to do the same... just someone who likes me as I am and that would like to take care of me and let me take care of him...

thanks for the sweet words!!... they really made my day!!

silentbob:

I'm fine being alone. I dont need to have the wrong person, and if the right person doesnt come along, then thats the way things go.. though i dont believe that, sometimes the waiting is key.

you're a poet!!...

Jazy:

silentbob:

I'm fine being alone. I dont need to have the wrong person, and if the right person doesnt come along, then thats the way things go.. though i dont believe that, sometimes the waiting is key.

 

you're a poet!!...

exactly! life isnt about constantly trying to find someone. you gotta enjoy yourself and worry about yourself before you worry about anyone else. not in the selfish way, just in the self-loving way.

Im not constantly trying to find anybody but maybe here it seems like i do, but that's just because recently a lot of stuff is happening. this is the first time ive ever "been" with a guy. he likes me back, and thats a huge step for me lol. we're not boyfriend and girlfriend yet though. we have soo much in common, its crazy. we always make eachother laugh, and have long conversations about all sorts of different stuff. we can tell eachother things we wouldnt tell anyone else. and he really cares about me: offering help with stuff, being a gentleman in general, lending me a couple dollars at the resaurant last night cuz i didn't have enough money (i felt bad but it was so sweet of him). i think they're all good signs. i just hung out with him and his friends (omg his friends are so funny i love them) last night and he invited me to again tonight, AND we're goin to a party together tomorrow. so i think it's safe to say he's right for me.

i digress. for me this is a rare occurance, lol. but in life i want to worry about following my dreams and pursuing my career, before i worry about a guy.

oh!! that's so sweet!! ^^ ... I think excactly the same, there're a lot of things to worry first than a guy... and when I think about it I'd also love to end up a career and have a life myself before I can share a life with someone else... !!!

about your story, I think you're living the best part... when you both are in love and enjoy doing things together... but you're not boyfriend and girlfriend yet... that's sweet...!! hope you get something nice!!

Jazy:

you're a poet!!...

Why thanks.. thats a nice thing to say.

It can be tough sometimes, and i think we all find ourselves in situations where we want people we cant have or people we like just dont like us back, that sucks too.. but sometimes when things dont work out the way you want it can be for the best!

silentbob:

but sometimes when things dont work out the way you want it can be for the best!

silentbob:

but sometimes when things dont work out the way you want it can be for the best!

you make me remember to a friend of mine who always says smart things on the right moment!!... you're so right about it!!...