sometimes it feels like you've never known love, even when you feel sure you have.

 And sometimes you know you never have

haha way to be optimistic naomi!

sometimes you're sure you're in love... although the only one can be a fool...

It never has really bothered me before that I was single (I'm single for years and years and years), but lately is has been bugging me alot. Especially when you see alot of people around you settling down in a relationship or starting a family. Saw a old classmate in the store yesterday who I haven't seen in years. Turns out she just bought a house with her boyfriend (and soon to be husband) and she's expecting her first baby. Have been thinking about that eversince yesterday. Most of my friends from primary and high school didn't went to uni and started working right after school. Most of them have settled down by now. The only thing I can say I've got, is my diploma and thats it. And where has that diploma got me? At a job that hasn't got a single thing to do with my education and diploma! Really regret going to uni, cause of uni being so busy, I really feel like I missed out on alot.

Would be nice to meet a girl to share your life, love and time with, but I don't see it happening in the near future. First of all I'm far to shy when it comes to that and besides I always seem to meet the wrong people, people who aren't interested or already are in a relationship. Makes you feel lonely at times! And besides I'm just a pretty average guy. Have changed alot the last few months though. Been going to the gym alot the last 4 months and it has really been paying off. Lost 20 kilo's in weight and have been feeling amazing and in a good shape lately!

I'm in a point of my life now that I have a very clear image of what I want to do with my life. And to find a nice girl to start a relationship with and building towards a family is one of the main things. I'm working alot of hours in the week and work almost seems to be the only thing in my life at the moment. It's all pretty meaningless. But because of me working that much I don't see that happening anytime soon. Have tried alot over the last few years, but nothing has worked. So I'll just continue on the way of being single and just hope on that one day!!

 Don't worry about it Wouts! I'm pretty sure 'the one' will come along sooner or later, some people just settle down sooner than others.

I had the same feeling a while ago, everybody seemed to have boyfriends (not settling down of course, that'd be weird at age of 18) besides me. But I'm over it now, I'm at the uni now meeting lots of great new people (including nice, funny and pretty goodlooking guys). I just think of new 'steps' in life as new opportunities for meeting new people. And who knows, maybe the future Mrs Wouts will walk into your store some day soon.

Really great to hear about your weight loss, that's amazing!

When I tell people I never had a 'real' boyfriend before they all seem surprised. I wasn't really interested in having a boyfriend to be honest and if I liked a guy nothing ever happened, 'cause I was too shy to make a move mostly. I've been more open and spontaneous lately, it's easier to get to know people that way I must say. I've met this guy who I like (at the uni!) now, so hopefully it'll work out. If not, I'll just keep on looking for Mr. Right

(Hopefully this will cheer you up, just wanted to let you know that you're deff not the only one dealing with the same things!)

i`m 23 now and i`ve been single for my whole life. all of my friends already have a boyfriends and i`m the only one single. sometimes it makes me sad especially when they talk about their boyfriends. it also makes me feel like i`m not a part of them anymore.

but then again, when there`s a guy who liked me, i got scared and tried to avoid him as best as i can. some of my friends told me that he was a nice guy and that i should got to know him more. but i didn`t want to do that.

i realize that i really enjoy being single or maybe i just get used to it.

lately, the idea of having a boyfriend seemed annoys me a lot. i want to have a relationship with a guy whom i like first and he likes me too. not a guy who comes out of no where and want to know me better. i`ve created a fence around me. maybe i`m such a narrow-minded girl.

for now having a boyfriend, for me, is more a like a proof that i`m not way too ordinary to be loved by someone,  a proof that there`s still someone out there who loves me .

 

 

 

Oh I'm new in this thread... it's nice to know that there is a place for singles and broken hearts... I'm single since 2 years ago. Sometimes it depresses me a lot but, when I think about how "terrible" have been all my past relationships, I think I'm better alone. So... I'm happy being single! (well, for now lol)

@Krezzy I know a couple who got together in their early teens and are still together...I'm pretty sure they're going to get married once they get out of school. just thinking of an 18 and a 17 year old settling down is odd, but I expect it from them. it's crazy how long they've been together.

what you said it's all so sweet, Wouter... truly, I mean... sometimes I feel the same, in my way... you know, I don't go out that much and sometimes I just think that I'm too busy with stuff that won't carry me anywhere... I always start to feel that I'd love to have someone to go out with, or who calls me when I'm down... but well, it seems that I gotta wait too... coming back to you, I think that it's just that you haven't found the right one yet... I've always thought that everyone has his/her other half somewhere out there... sometimes it's hard to find it, but... you're young and smart and you look like a nice guy on your pics! I'm sure you'll find someone later or soon!!!... although the waiting can be a bit hurting sometimes....

 

aaw I love this thread!

 I've got a bit of a crush on a coworker.  This is no good...

would you like to tell us??we always want to here and try to help...

For me this is a very difficult thing to talk about. I've never been with someone (well maybe when I was two or something). I'm way too shy for that. Mainly because of some people that were in my class a couple years ago.
I never talk to someone about this, not even with my friends. I really should do that.

it happens to me too, when someone likes me or something I'm too shy to talk with him... or try to get closer... I know that sometimes it makes guy think that I don't like them... but it's just that I got nervous and shy...

unique:

I've never been with someone (well maybe when I was two or something). I'm way too shy for that.

I know exactly how you're feeling, I haven't had a 'real' boyfriend either, just 2 online things with guys on the other side of Europe (It's bad I know). But now I think I'm more ready to have a boyfriend than i used to be and more open to the thought of it, if you know what I mean. It's just a matter of meeting the right guy at the right time. your prince charming will come along, I'm sure No need to worry about it, you've still got your whole life to fing Mr. Right. And it might feel like you're being left out when people around you are starting to hook up, but I'll always say: 'It's better to wait for Mr. Right than to get your heart broken by Mr. Wrong'

I think I've mentioned it before, but  4 days ago was my first anniversary of being single after a 5 year relationship...to tell you the truth, I feel so dissapointed on the love issue...I really feel like I will never find "the one"..I mean I thought my ex was, you know we were together 5 years...5 long years on which we both wasted our time, just to find out that we weren't meant to be. It gets me sad to remember all those times on which we both were "happy" and even talked  about settled down and stuff. I really feel like I was a nice girlfriend and such, and the way I treated him it was the best of me..I mean, that was as much as I could give...so I feel that if me behaving like that wasn't enough, so I don't know what to do. That's why I feel dissapointed, all that effort to make the relationship to work...it was worthless. Love sucks!

I'm really getting used to the idea of being single, but I'm not sure if I like it I really miss being with somebody.

    
I understand perfectly and I wonder... how can be a good girlfriend? ...I mean, I've tried but always ends up being a disaster ...sometimes I think that I'm not made for this ...and I know that I'm still "young" but I'm really afraid to be alone forever

yessicachaplin23:

I know that I'm still "young" but I'm really afraid to be alone forever

 

me too... and although I haven't had a really boyfriend (just dated for 2 weeks with a guy that the only thing that we do was come back from school to my house when I was 14 ) sometimes I start to wonder what should I do if I'd find someone that I'd like... do you know what I mean?? what should I tell him... or if I'll look stupid telling him things that I feel or that I'm hoping for... (I think I've started to sound stupid now) ...

No that's not stupid at all jazy! It's exactly how i'm feeling..

no way! that's not stupid Jazy... we all feel the same...

now,  I'm very confused and feels like a fool ... two days ago I decided to be brave and tell everything to "that guy" ...the problem is we don't see us very often, so ...I sent him a message where I explain to him what I feel... the result? ...NOTHING!! he didn't reject me... he just ignored me! ... well, ignored my message ...he still hasn't told me anything (yes, as some song says "... but you haven't told me anything" lol) and I think that says it all... he is not interested :/...and worst of all is ...we were very good friends and now I think I messed up... he doesn't talk with me ... I think everything is over... another Mr. Wrong to my list...